Love In The Times Of Technology

Reflecting on Quarantine: Intimacy, Technology, and Being Present

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This quarantine has us all analyzing what the best way to spend our time at home is and how to make the most out of it, but are we really spending our time in a healthy and productive manner?

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Quality Time: A Closer Look at Relationships

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For those living with their partners, are you using this time to bond, to help, to serve as a companion, to show appreciation and love? Or are you self-isolating in your own personal interests, and using this time as a valid excuse to run away from your responsibilities?

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We are currently facing a different issue that many people may not be aware of. Many of us don’t know how to actually be present in the moment, we don’t know how to show appreciation for others, and we don’t have patience to deal with other’s emotions. People are filing for divorce over simply having to spend too much time with their romantic partners, which I think is a bit lunatic. Intimacy isn’t just about sex and romance; intimacy is about sharing, about supporting each other, getting to know each other, and trusting one another.

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Redefining Intimacy

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It is evident that technology has made it easier to stay connected to the world, but how important is it to check our phones regularly and compulsively from the moment we open our eyes until the moment we fall asleep? Are we actually spending time with our families without the distraction of incoming messages? We are constantly wanting to be connected, and informed, but we are making those physically around us feel lonely in our presence due to the constant need of being tuned into our online conversations. This feels a little bit off to me. If the idea is to stay connected, why are we ignoring those who are there for us to talk to?

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Technology: A Double-Edged Sword

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Is technology ruining our capability as humans to interact with one another? As social beings, do we really feel more comfortable with virtual contact rather than with  handshakes and hugs? Are we being trained to lose our essence, our empathy, and are we finally becoming robots? Have we resisted our nature for so long already that we can no longer relate to feelings? I say, fuck you all, fuck your phones and fuck your shallow minds that don’t even let you live in the moment...now! Because that’s all we have! Being present, being here and now!

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What are your thoughts?!

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Written by Laura Morales